7 to 8 Questions to Save You Time and Heartbreak

     All these dating and relationship books are a business people...they are in it to make MONEY!!! Wake the f*ck up lol.  Movies and television are selling true love will find a way...hey it might I don't know but I do know this...relationships are simple, people make them hard. You don't need to read a 200 page ego trip, just have a conversation...if you don't know how to start one try this...

If you are considering going on a date with someone ask them a few simple questions.  Save the attitude and aggression for your momma...make sure to use a non-threatening tone:

You: "When was your last date?"
Them: blah, blah, blah (You just listen.)
You: Are you still seeing them?"

If the answer is "Yes", this person just became intriguing to you...Is that interest I feel? Now you have more questions:

You: "What do you like about her?"
Them: blah, blah, blah (You just listen.)
You: "They sound like a catch. How long have you been seeing them?" (*Note* Names don't matter at this point so don't ask.  Also, it doesn't matter if it is one "them" or a thousand "thems"...it's all the same.)
Them: blah, blah, blah (You just listen.)
You: "Why are you here with me? What is your expectation(s)?"

Now if the answer is "No", this person needs to be probed deeper than the "Yes" person and all you have to do is ask them one or two more questions that will determine this person's position in your life:

You: "What didn't you like about them?"
Him: blah, blah, blah (You just listen.)

If the answer given is anything other than "They were not the one" or "We grew apart", chances are this person is not ready for a relationship.

Stop. Don't pass go. Don't collect any imaginary money...here is where you have a decision to make:

Do I want to attempt to have a relationship with this person or else. If you choose "Yes" to relationship attempt your next question should be:

"What is your expectation from me?" Let's rant on "expectation" real quick...many say they don't expect anything from anyone... LIAR; the truth doesn't come from you.  We all have them with everyone we encounter even if it is just for them to be themselves...that is your expectation of them. I digress...

If you choose a "No" to a relationship attempt with said person, you either kick rocks, friend zone them to high heaven or use them as your sex slave. Don't make it emotional or an attempt to manipulate them.

That's it...no science just common sense and a conversation. You're welcome!  Always remember people are liars so show patience with your actions to uncover decepticons.
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Now for those folks in a relationship that's not meeting your expectations and you are angry and cursing your mate AND you didn't read this post PRIOR to writing your love story, I am going to save you headache, heartache and breathe:

Ask yourself:
"What was the expectation?"
"Was this communicated clearly to my mate in verbal or written form?"

If the answer is "Yes",what's the real problem because it ain't expectations? Provide the proof. Verbal proof equals you are currently getting chewed out by this person.

If the answer is "No", case dismissed.

Honesty is always the best policy and you will thank yourself in the end.  It would also be helpful if you asked these questions of yourself so that you know you two have the same intentions.